7 “TED” Talks That Can Change Your Life

I find small obsessions where I can sit for hours, if the time allows, focused on that one thing. Recently my obsession has been about TED talks. If you aren’t familiar with what this is, it’s basically a platform for people to spread their ideas in the form of short talks. Some can be lengthy, but I wouldn’t bother writing this is it wasn’t worth your time.
I’ve compiled a few that I think are essential for inspiration, particularly for millennials who could use a quick pick-me-up. 

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It’s Okay To Not Be Sorry | #ShineStrong

I’m sure we all have friends that say, “I’m sorry” a lot. It’s almost as if they’re apologizing for their existence and passing it off as an attempt to be polite while apologizing for being rude. When in fact the majority of the time they’re not even being rude and have no reason to apologize, but it is such a knee-jerk reaction for the words to utter from their lips, that it occurs more often than necessary. 
I read about and watched the commercial Pantene released (Not Sorry ‘see below’) aimed at women to encourage them to stop saying “sorry” so much. Which falls in line with their gender normality charged commercial released last year “Labels Against Women”.
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Lupita Shuts Down Haters … Again


On The Couch Today The gracious, beautiful and vibrant Lupita Nyong’o. Courtesy of Ms. BM.

Originally posted on Black Millennial Musings:

Lupita Nyong’o put her haters to shame (once again) when she announced that she will be cast in the upcoming Star Wars film. This news is a welcome addition to spectators who were unsure what the mainstream media would do with the woman who is singlehandedly revolutionizing beauty standards in Hollywood.

Ever since co-starring in the highly acclaimed 12 Years a Slave, critics opined that Lupita would be cast aside as an anomaly; a one-hit wonder who would fade into obscurity after a specious 15-minutes.

But Lupita is back and stronger than ever, landing a coveted role in a blockbuster series.

It begs the question … why were some so willing to downplay Lupita’s career trajectory? Why were some so quick to smear her accomplishments in pessimism?

It’s understandable why some were cautious; Hollywood is notorious for hastily sidestepping women of color. And Lupita was never positioned to become the media darling…

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On The Couch Today

When we think of big names affiliated with Facebook, we generally think of Mark Zuckerberg (The list stops there). But have you ever heard the name Sheryl Sandberg?
She was a huge part of the #BanBossy movement launched a couple of months ago with Beyoncé, Arne Duncan, Condoleezza Rice, Diane von Furstenberg, Jennifer Garner and more.

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On The Couch Today

I love emotion provoking speeches! When a woman makes a speech or says something that makes you think, want to change, or feel better than before she spoke, she should be celebrated. She deserves to sit on the couch today. She = Gabourey Sidibe.
May 1, 2014, Gabourey Sidibe gave a long and beautiful speech at Gloria Awards and Gala. She is radiantly beautiful and for a person to have half of her confidence…they should be so lucky. I posted about her a while back, and she still stands for the same beautiful thing, strength and self-love. Continue reading for excerpts from her beautiful speech.

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I’m Breaking-up With Every Guy That I’ve Never Been With

I got my first ever advice-related question in the other day. I’m been grueling over the answer to this impeccably simple question. Until I decided I’d answer here, publicly – hopefully you don’t mind – but I’m sure there is someone else out there needing advice on the same thing. I am grateful you chose me, however, so thank you! 


On The Couch Today – FIRST ONE!

P!nk at Billboard's Women in Music 2013 event at Capitale in New York City. Michael Seto Photography

P!nk at Billboard’s Women in Music 2013 event at Capitale in New York City.
Michael Seto Photography – Found on Billboard

We have Mrs. Alecia Beth Moore Hart aka P!nk. In December of 2013 my personal favorite bad-ass, punk-rock artist accepted Billboard’s Woman of the Year award at their annual Women in Music luncheon in New York City. We can bring to light the fact that Billboard celebrates women every year in the first place. But it was P!nk’s acceptance speech that brings me to (figuratively) sit her on PL’s couch today.

New Stuff Coming!!!


Let me start off by thanking the people who have read and shared my various posts so far. I’m really hoping that you are enjoying yourself and the content I’m bringing you. I’ve been trying to keep it entertaining as well as touch on some hard hitting topics with a dash of a few glimpses into my journey. And this is only the beginning, so I send my BIGGESTTT appreciations your way; for being here now, and here’s to hoping you stick around for what’s to come.

Now, on to the NEW STUFF news:

Every week, I will bring to the couch a delightfully inspirational and kick-ass woman (and the occasional male) from all over the world right here on PL’s couch; which could also mean your couch, or your office chair, whatever works. It’s my, slightly longer, version of Woman Crush Wednesday aka #WCW. This new feature will be titled On The Couch Today, and it will be a sub-menu item, under the menu item The Couch (duh). So you’ll be able to find all of the posts easily over time.

I think this is an exciting new feature, not only because this will feature women that we all likely know, but it could be your mom, or your dad, or your teachers, etc. This can go on forever. And it will as long as you’re right here with me. Show someone you care about, or look up to, a little appreciation by sending me an email with information, perhaps a picture, and I’d love to share it.

This will include the likes of Gloria Steinam, Ashton Kutcher, Oprah, Adele, Pharrell, Beyonce, Michelle Obama, Tupac, Hillary Clinton, Sheryl Sandberg, P!nk, Brene Brown, John Legend, (your mom’s name here), (my mom’s name here), (YOU), etc, etc, etc!!! My head is going to explode from all of the awesome people who have paved the way before us, during our generations and for our future generations. WOOO! I have my work cut out for me! But I’m SUPER excited about digging into it!

Please join in on the discussion on the couch to discuss these women, and the reasons they are an inspiration to you. Or maybe tell me why you don’t agree with it. Whatever works for you.

It launches on the first Wednesday of May; May 7, 2014. PLEASE DON’T FORGET TO STOP BY!!!

Share this as many times as you possibly can. I’m looking for inspiration to inspire you!

Comment below or tweet me @PerpetualLite

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Stop Hating. The Clippers Protest Was F*cking Awesome. Get Over It.


This was worded so perfectly I had to reblog it. ❤

Originally posted on Black Millennial Musings:

You know I couldn’t stay quiet long.

Unless you’ve been living under the biggest rock known to man, you’ve heard of the latest racial controversy. Donald Sterling, owner of The Clippers, candidly remarked that he didn’t want his sugar baby girlfriend bringing Black people to his games.

His words reveal the dark underbelly of the capitalist racist complex that’s extremely pungent in sports. The NBA and basketball are indelible fixtures in Black culture, with over 76% of NBA players being Black and millions of fans identifying as African American. Black dollars literally fuel the multibillion dollar industry. But never mind the fat paychecks … Sterling doesn’t want us there.

In the era of social media, the response has been swift. President Obama (y’know, the first African American POTUS) registered his opinions. So did Snoop Dogg. Endorsement deals are already falling through, and fans are calling for Sterling’s dismissal. This…

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13 Things Men Should Understand about Women

1. Yes, we Googled/Facebooked you. And so did our friends. Get over it.

2. You might be cute, but that doesn’t mean we want to have your children. Relax, cowboy.

3. Chivalry is NOT dead. Don’t go overboard, but don’t forget it either. (This is not simply black and white, inquire before assumptions)

4. We have schedules also. And YES the Gym/Pilates/Yoga classes are important. Instead of insisting we miss it, join us or wait. The bar will still be open tomorrow, or later in the evening.

5. We know we’re not the only girl in your life…yet…but be respectful about it. I mean, if we can be respectful, so can you.

6. If you could NOT sleep-over on a weeknight, that would be greatly appreciated.

7. Oh…You’re “sick”? We get that too guys. Seriously, you can stop using that excuse. 

8. I’m sorry…but size does matter. 

9. Yes! That is probably the same bra I wore yesterday. And there’s a chance it’ll be worn again, maybe tomorrow, maybe not. 

10. There is a thin line between romantic and creepy, and that line depends on how attracted we are to you. But, really.

11. Our eyes leak sometimes, we’re not aliens. It’s OK to hug us through it.

12. We can gladly move on, just like you. You’re either in or you’re out, don’t teeter on the edge of commitment too long. 

13. Wine.
wine pour